Recognize that you are experiencing emotional distress or mental suffering. Accept that the feeling is there. Imagine what you might feel if you saw a loved one experiencing this feeling. Challenge your negative story about yourself. Think about how everybody messes up sometimes. Decide what it would take to forgive yourself. Use self-talk to encourage yourself. Be a life coach to yourself.
You will start to feel more in charge of your life. You will set stronger boundaries around dating and love. You will stop seeking approval. You will start to make more courageous and conscious decisions. You will start to enjoy being with yourself. You will develop a stronger relationship with yourself. You will stop seeking happiness in relationships.